How to always be successful XD
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Firstly, I’d like to apologize for that line. I just wanted to take a dump on you. Failure, alas like Thanos is inevitable. Speaking of him, I’d also like to give you a heads up for all the MCU references that are gonna come up in this article.
Everyone fails at who they’re supposed to be, Thor. The measure of a person, of a hero, is at how well they succeed at who they are.
That’s one of the quotes by Frigga and more often than not, quotes like this get lost in between all the action sequences present in the movies. But these quotes are quite helpful if interpreted appropriately.
We have a ton of responsibility and are surrounded by immeasurable amounts of stress, failing in a particular task only makes life worse. We cry out for help, to relieve us of all the problems we face so that for once we can enjoy life the way it is meant to be. Although I do not condone this thought, it’s quite harmful to nurture it in your mind. This results in a large train of negative thoughts like, “What will people think of me?” or “Is it within my calibre or not?”. I’m not going to suggest some Jalapeno+Jojoba oil juice or something to ‘cleanse your mind/soul’ (Gosh I hate the people who suggest it) but what I can do is help you focus on failure itself and perhaps show you another perspective to it which should help you solve a lot of your problems.
One thing that really perplexes me is the phrase “Log kya kahenge?” (that’s in Hindi) which kind of translates to “What will other people think of me?”. I get it, as a teenager you get self-conscious and you go through a variety of extremely new things, some may surprise you others make you paranoid and at times both! I really believe that this mentality should be weeded out as soon as possible. This mentality is usually the root cause of many failures. Look at dogs, they just run around doing whatever they feel like and no one is judging them. They explore the world as they want to, sometimes with a helping hand but you can always see that curiosity rather than society’ judgement always gets them. You can make a lot of excuses of why dogs have this behaviour and humans don’t but deep down we know we tell ourselves, “Log kya kahenge?”.
As for what people think about you, screw them. If there’s one thing I’ve learnt living on this planet for 19 years, it’s that you can never be a hero in everyone’s story but you can sure be the villain. They’re gonna find a reason to hate you. Be a sport and give them actual ones.
Another thing that puzzles me is that a few people (including me) go to the gym for three months and expect a 6-pack. Now, I’m going to tell you a secret half the population already knows - ‘Consistency is key to succeeding’. Ironman had 50+ armours by the time he died in Endgame. You think it popped out of thin air? Here’s one quote that’ll really put things in perspective. I urge you to ponder over it for a minute or two and then continue reading the article.
Cowards never start. The weak never finish. But the winners, they never quit.
Okay, so you’re committed to your work and ideas are flowing in and out like a river but here’s the problem- there’s too much of it. Humans in general can not focus on one topic. This is visible especially in day-to-day conversations. You may start talking about some incident from the news, but then end up talking about your family followed by aliens. As weird as it may seem, you can actually notice it first-hand (in a talkshow or in someone else’s conversation) and even catch yourself red-handed in the act!
Consistency, along with focus makes you successful in completing any task at hand. Try to avoid multitasking and note-down unwanted thoughts (like doing the laundry) on a piece of paper while working so that you can review them later.
No matter how dedicated you are, there comes a time where you are unable to see the results you expected. This is something that happens to everyone, I’ve experienced a lot. Back when I was preparing for JEE (Entrance examination for the top engineering colleges in India), I knew that the chances of me getting an admission in an IIT was minuscule. However, I worked my ass off but when the results cam out, I couldn’t pass the JEE Adv. examination. Obviously, I was devasted and I didn’t feel like talking to anyone for days. But here’s another thing I learnt from Stark,
“If life gives you lemons, weaponize it and use it against the bad guys.”
These are my thoughts on failure, let me know yours in comment section. I’m eager to read them.